About Me
- Heidi J. Seegers
- I'm a single mother, never married. Professionally, I am an academic advisor at the University of Northern Iowa. Personally, I enjoy going places and doing things with my daughter, Bailey. I'm also a personal advocate for the March of Dimes.
Sunday, June 9, 2019
Prom 2019
Bailey's Junior Prom is a day I will treasure forever.
We shopped for her dress the weekend after her birthday. After trying on nearly 20 dresses at 6 department stores, she found a royal blue dress which matched the style she was searching for. I almost fell over when the cashier rang up the dress for $22. What a steal! In the days leading up to prom, she experienced her first spray tan at Suntan City. Mandy Even at Visions Salon pampered her the morning of prom with a manicure, pedicure, up-do and makeup application. Her royal blue dress with matching accessories radiated her beauty once she put the entire ensemble together.
We returned to the UNI campus for some fun photography. With Aunt Hope's scenic suggestions, we captured some awesome pictures, along with more pictures on our deck.
Bailey's friend Tex agreed to be her date to the prom. He was such a gentleman, arriving at our house with a beautiful corsage. Their evening at prom and post-prom was filled with many memorable moments (you'll have to ask Bailey for the details).
Although prom is now behind us, I'm so grateful for the pictures to remind me of this special day. They just make my heart happy.
Sunday, April 14, 2019
She's 18!!!
'Where does the time go' seems so cliche, but I can't deny this feeling as Bailey is now 18 years old. My mind can't help but reflect back over the 18 years of our time together, but also looks forward to the new adventures ahead. My Instagram post back on March 28th sums up this beautiful soul and the past 18 years.
Happy 18th Birthday to this beauty today! Her tender heart and quirky comments just touch the surface of what lies within this now young adult. I’m beyond proud to witness every day the lady she has become. I’m honored that God chose me to be her mother 18 years ago. Her early arrival was just the beginning of what lied ahead for us. Through the good, the bad, the laughter and the tears we’ve persevered and today celebrate 18 years. I love you Bailey Hope! Cheers to you and all this next year has in store!
Sunday, January 27, 2019
Remembering My Mentors
As life marches on, it's easy to get wrapped up in the daily grind and routine. Then the word of someone's passing puts life back into perspective and memories of days passed come flooding back. Over the past 4 months this has happened to me, upon hearing that 2 of my mentors during my high school years had passed away. I knew over 25 years ago that they were a huge influence on my high school experience. As I've grown older, I've realized just how much they affected my life and how much those memories are a treasured part of my life.
Mr. Libke was my High School English Teacher and Speech Coach. During my freshman year, my locker was outside of his classroom. One day he pulled me aside and encouraged me to take a piece to speech contest. He then proceeded to hand me a 1 1/2 page single-spaced document, a public address, and told me to memorize the entire piece which I would present at district speech contest. Over the following weeks I would meet with him and receive his constructive criticism to make my presentation better. The day of speech contest I was more nervous than I can ever remember. I received a 'I', meaning I was moving on to the state speech contest in 2 weeks. That experience moved me to participate in both group and individual speech contest over the next 4 years, with the ultimate goal of making it to the All-State Speech Contest. My senior year this became a reality and I took my Storytelling piece, 'The Berenstein Bears Get The Gimmies' to All-State. Along with the many hours spent in Mr. Libke's classroom after school, I also worked with him as an Assistant Director on West Central's production of 'Oklahoma' in 1998 and as a part of the cast of 'Death By Chocolate' in 2005 with the Sumner Community Theatre, which he co-directed.
In September I was shocked to hear that Mr. Libke had passed away unexpectedly. It was then that I knew what a profound impact he had on my life, with so many memories flooding back to me. His encouragement all those years brought me out of my shyness and gave me confidence in public speaking, as well as writing. His constructive criticism in both speaking and writing were the toughest I've ever received. I will be forever grateful for him pushing me to my potential and seeing something in me I had not seen myself. He will always be remembered as one of my mentors.
Last weekend Bailey participated in her first district speech contest and her group received a 'I'. It's so much fun to be on a different side of this experience and I look forward to the state contest next weekend. Thank you Mr. Libke for introducing speech into my life all those years ago. Little did I know what an impact you would have on me.
Yesterday I attended A Celebration of Life service for my high school basketball coach, Mr. Gene Klinge. His passing was also sudden, a little over a week ago. Memories of all those years on the basketball court came back to me after hearing he had passed away. Last weekend I even dug out the VHS tape of when West Central beat Cal-Latimer to go to the state tournament my senior year. What a game and what a treasure to watch that game and have those memories. While I was in the gymnasium waiting for the service to begin, I recognized so many WC alumni who had played for Mr. Klinge over his 41 year tenure at West Central. When I was young, I remember looking forward to Friday nights when our family would go to basketball games and I would watch the girls on the court, aspiring to be one of them someday. In 5th grade I was finally able to attend my first basketball camp where I would learn the fundamentals of 6-on-6 basketball. I would attend camp every year after, as well as a basketball camp Mr. Klinge organized at Upper Iowa University. Every year the drills and structure of the camp were the same, based around the basic fundamentals of 6-on-6 basketball. Mr. Klinge instilled this in his teams, along with "mental toughness". Unless someone has played for him, a person cannot understand how this lights a fire inside of you to play better.
I was so fortunate to play basketball from 7th-12th grade with a group of girls who "just clicked". In junior high we would blow teams away, one game with a final score of 72-4. Ouch! Our team had aspirations to make it to the state tournament in high school. After a crushing double-overtime loss in district play my junior year, the state tournament ticket became a reality my senior year. It is an experience I can't put into words other than to say it was amazing. Despite getting beat in the second round, the entire experience is something that will always be remembered. 1993 was also the final year of 6-on-6 basketball in Iowa. Again, unless you've watched it and played it, a person doesn't understand how special this game was.
The sharing of stories throughout the service brought some chuckles, as well as a few tears. Mr. Klinge's influence on my life through the game of basketball instilled that "mental toughness" in me that many people mentioned. One coach recognized that West Central's teams were always respectful and kind to their opponents and officials, which you don't see in all teams. A feeling of pride in representing the Blue Devils all those years overcame me. I realized I was a part of something special in playing basketball for West Central, under the leadership of Mr. Gene Klinge. Thank you Mr. Klinge for instilling some great life skills in me and pushing me to my potential.
Along with these memories, I remembered that I had blogged about Mr. Libke and Mr. Klinge some years ago. When I went back to my past blogs, I didn't remember that I had blogged about both of them in the same post. There must be something about these 2 men and how their memories intersect in my life. These are my Treasured Memories .
Mr. Libke was my High School English Teacher and Speech Coach. During my freshman year, my locker was outside of his classroom. One day he pulled me aside and encouraged me to take a piece to speech contest. He then proceeded to hand me a 1 1/2 page single-spaced document, a public address, and told me to memorize the entire piece which I would present at district speech contest. Over the following weeks I would meet with him and receive his constructive criticism to make my presentation better. The day of speech contest I was more nervous than I can ever remember. I received a 'I', meaning I was moving on to the state speech contest in 2 weeks. That experience moved me to participate in both group and individual speech contest over the next 4 years, with the ultimate goal of making it to the All-State Speech Contest. My senior year this became a reality and I took my Storytelling piece, 'The Berenstein Bears Get The Gimmies' to All-State. Along with the many hours spent in Mr. Libke's classroom after school, I also worked with him as an Assistant Director on West Central's production of 'Oklahoma' in 1998 and as a part of the cast of 'Death By Chocolate' in 2005 with the Sumner Community Theatre, which he co-directed.
In September I was shocked to hear that Mr. Libke had passed away unexpectedly. It was then that I knew what a profound impact he had on my life, with so many memories flooding back to me. His encouragement all those years brought me out of my shyness and gave me confidence in public speaking, as well as writing. His constructive criticism in both speaking and writing were the toughest I've ever received. I will be forever grateful for him pushing me to my potential and seeing something in me I had not seen myself. He will always be remembered as one of my mentors.
Last weekend Bailey participated in her first district speech contest and her group received a 'I'. It's so much fun to be on a different side of this experience and I look forward to the state contest next weekend. Thank you Mr. Libke for introducing speech into my life all those years ago. Little did I know what an impact you would have on me.
Yesterday I attended A Celebration of Life service for my high school basketball coach, Mr. Gene Klinge. His passing was also sudden, a little over a week ago. Memories of all those years on the basketball court came back to me after hearing he had passed away. Last weekend I even dug out the VHS tape of when West Central beat Cal-Latimer to go to the state tournament my senior year. What a game and what a treasure to watch that game and have those memories. While I was in the gymnasium waiting for the service to begin, I recognized so many WC alumni who had played for Mr. Klinge over his 41 year tenure at West Central. When I was young, I remember looking forward to Friday nights when our family would go to basketball games and I would watch the girls on the court, aspiring to be one of them someday. In 5th grade I was finally able to attend my first basketball camp where I would learn the fundamentals of 6-on-6 basketball. I would attend camp every year after, as well as a basketball camp Mr. Klinge organized at Upper Iowa University. Every year the drills and structure of the camp were the same, based around the basic fundamentals of 6-on-6 basketball. Mr. Klinge instilled this in his teams, along with "mental toughness". Unless someone has played for him, a person cannot understand how this lights a fire inside of you to play better.
I was so fortunate to play basketball from 7th-12th grade with a group of girls who "just clicked". In junior high we would blow teams away, one game with a final score of 72-4. Ouch! Our team had aspirations to make it to the state tournament in high school. After a crushing double-overtime loss in district play my junior year, the state tournament ticket became a reality my senior year. It is an experience I can't put into words other than to say it was amazing. Despite getting beat in the second round, the entire experience is something that will always be remembered. 1993 was also the final year of 6-on-6 basketball in Iowa. Again, unless you've watched it and played it, a person doesn't understand how special this game was.
The sharing of stories throughout the service brought some chuckles, as well as a few tears. Mr. Klinge's influence on my life through the game of basketball instilled that "mental toughness" in me that many people mentioned. One coach recognized that West Central's teams were always respectful and kind to their opponents and officials, which you don't see in all teams. A feeling of pride in representing the Blue Devils all those years overcame me. I realized I was a part of something special in playing basketball for West Central, under the leadership of Mr. Gene Klinge. Thank you Mr. Klinge for instilling some great life skills in me and pushing me to my potential.
Along with these memories, I remembered that I had blogged about Mr. Libke and Mr. Klinge some years ago. When I went back to my past blogs, I didn't remember that I had blogged about both of them in the same post. There must be something about these 2 men and how their memories intersect in my life. These are my Treasured Memories .
Saturday, January 19, 2019
Retreats Are Snow Much Fun
Two years ago I visited Cedar Creek Retreat Center and fell in love. To explain my path to this beautiful blessing from God, I'd like to go back to October 2009...
Knowing I enjoyed scrapbooking, my sister-in-law invited me to a scrapbook retreat at Pine Lake Camps. I'd never been to a retreat before so I had no idea what I was in for. In short, it was a life-changing event for me. The entire weekend was awesome. The retreat was facilitated by Follow Hard Ministries. Although I got to scrapbook for an entire weekend, have homemade meals prepared for me and meet some really awesome women, the bigger benefit was growing closer to God. Becky and Lynn, the 2 women behind Follow Hard Ministries, led breakout sessions that involved singing, connecting scripture with the theme for the weekend (purses), along with fun and laughter. I was so moved by the entire weekend that I made it a priority to get every retreat on my calendar, and I have.
A couple years ago Becky shared with us at a retreat that she felt God moving her to start a retreat center down in southern Iowa. Her new partner in the ministry, Sherri, had moved down to the southern part of the state and they had begun to look for land and a place for God to place Follow Hard Ministries. Lots of prayer and trust eventually led them to a property in the country, outside of Winterset, Iowa. Cedar Creek was this place and I was blessed to attend my first retreat there 2 years ago. Like my first retreat at Pine Lakes, my first retreat at Cedar Creek was life-changing. The property is in a secluded area of the countryside. The home is so welcoming and comforting, with different spaces throughout to have peace and spend time with God. Becky and Sherri are amazing hosts, preparing homecooked meals throughout the weekend and providing a great space downstairs to scrapbook all weekend long. At different points throughout the weekend we take a short break from our scrapbooks to spend time in a devotional and playing silly games. It gives a renewed energy to get back to cropping, but also to remember that all we have comes from God.
Last weekend I attended my 5th scrapbook retreat at Cedar Creek. The theme was Snowjama. Little did we know that a snowstorm would cover Southern Iowa throughout the weekend. Snow began to fall Friday night and continued all day Saturday. Due to the heavy snowfall overnight, we were literally snowed in for the day, but what better place to spend a Snow Day. Having discovered the importance of self-care over these past couple months, that was my focus going into last weekend. To take care of myself and spend time with God. I praise God that he has blessed Follow Hard Ministries with Cedar Creek Retreat Center and will continue to pray that the work Becky and Sherri do in spreading the Word will bring their future plans to fruition. I can't wait to return again.
Monday, December 31, 2018
The Year Was 2018
As I watch Dick Clark's New Years Rockin' Eve and reminisce about the past 365 days, I once again realize how fortunate I was to experience so many great moments throughout the past year. After a hiatus from Bails 'n Me for a couple years, I've found journaling and blogging to be very therapeutic for me. It's been fun to catch up and capture our memories leading up to December 31st. Below are links to blogs about 2018.
Time will tell what 2019 has in store for Bails 'n Me. Stay tuned.
Happy New Year!
Thursday, December 27, 2018
Christmas 2018
Another Christmas has come and gone. While many people are stressed out and rushing around to check items off their to-do list, I decided to be in the moment this Christmas season and focus on the reason for the season: The birth of our Savior. The presents, sweets and time together with family is just a bonus.
My favorite part of the Christmas season is Christmas Eve. When I was younger, it was the excitement of going to my Great Grandpa and Grandma Reinking's home to open a bag full of presents and then get home to see if Santa had come to the farm. When Bailey was younger it was "playing Santa" and seeing the excitement on her face when she saw that sack of presents in front of the tree following the Christmas Eve church service. But now my favorite part is the Christmas Eve service itself, with the traditional Christmas carols and singing Silent Night by candlelight. This reminder of God's gift to us overwhelms me at times. I still get those warm, fuzzy feelings I had when I was younger.
In continuing with being in the moment, Bailey and I spent Christmas Day together. Bailey suggested opening our gifts on Christmas Day instead of Eve this year. She created a beautiful canvas art Bailey Seegers original for me, along with a chalkboard for us to create our own original work of art. My gifts to her were Ariana Grande perfume and a book about her favorite boy band, BTS. Later that afternoon we went to see Mary Poppins Returns at Crossroads Theater. The new Dreamloungers were an awesome way to relax and enjoy this great movie. We capped off our day with facials and fresh faces. It was a great day spent together.
Our Seegers Family Christmas was held the weekend before Christmas. Once again we met up at Maple Lanes Bowling Alley. This time together is a special way to celebrate the holiday and have some friendly competition. It may also be the Christmas Bailey will remember when she beat Grandpa Seegers in a game of bowling, and almost beat Uncle Heath, until the final frame. Seeing how our family is growing up sparked some nostagia in me so I decided to create some Christmas collages of Christmases past. We are one blessed family.
I Choose Me
This past November I attended The Way Up Conference which is designed for women who work in higher education. Being a Type A personality, I always go through the breakout sessions before a conference, identify those I plan to attend and get excited about all the new information I can learn. One of the sessions I had planned to attend was cancelled so 2 women stepped in with a presentation based around the book, 'Stretched Too Thin'.
I've always been a believer that God works in mysterious ways and this presentation was once again God's way of intervening in my life. Over the past 4 months I had become stressed, depressed, angry and anxious. Some of the suggestions during the presentation motivated me to read the book when I returned home. I was able to find a free copy to download to my Kindle and it probably sounds cliche, but I believe this book has changed my life. Over the next week I did all the exercises in the book. It was a great time for self-reflection and I discovered a new concept called self-care. Sure, I'd heard about self-care before, but I was definitely not practicing it. Being a single mom for over 17 years and developing strong independence as an adult, I often feel like I have to be self-sufficient and not ask for help. At first self-care felt like I was being selfish, but as I began to make it a daily practice, I discovered that I could be a better mother, daughter, sister, friend, co-worker, advisor and more importantly, a better person through this practice. It's not selfish to take care of ourselves. In fact we must take care of ourselves in order to take care of others.
I had also recently heard the expression, 'It's okay not to be okay'. This resonated with me and I began to ask for help and say 'no' more. When people asked me how I was, I would respond 'okay'. Not good. Not fine. Just okay. And I was okay with that response. I also realized that most people do not even listen for your response (or maybe even care), but that's okay too.
Stretched Too Thin refers to seasons in our lives and I realize I am in another new season of my life as my daughter prepares to head for college in a couple years, my parents are aging and I am at the mid-point of my career. Bails 'n Me has been a special way for me to capture all the special moments in my life over the past 9 years so I plan to put my self-care into practice and reflect on this season of my life more through blogging.
Finally I have to suggest if you are a woman who feels stretched too thin, take some time to read this book. It's a quick read and applying even a couple suggestions from the book could change how you live your life.
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