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I'm a single mother, never married. Professionally, I am an academic advisor at the University of Northern Iowa. Personally, I enjoy going places and doing things with my daughter, Bailey. I'm also a personal advocate for the March of Dimes.

Saturday, May 28, 2016

Bailey's Confirmation

Sunday, May 15th we celebrated Bailey's confirmation. What a blessed day in our lives.

 As a young girl, Bailey began her Christian instruction at 3 years old when she attended Vacation Bible School.  When we moved to Mount Pleasant, she attended Sunday School and Wednesday night classes called ARK.  She began "official" confirmation instruction in 5th grade and that continued through 8th grade.  The culmination of this education was made public at a church service on May 8th where she proclaimed her Christian faith as it is taught through Lutheran instruction.  Her poise and confidence when answering questions from the pastor was so wonderful to watch.  The response to her final question 'Why do you love Jesus' was one of the proudest moments of my life.

When our pastor sent me Bailey's confirmation verse (above), I knew the Holy Spirit was working through him.  The past 3 years have been some of the hardest for Bailey, personally.  As a mother, they've challenged me as well.  However the silver lining through all the heartache is that Bailey has been drawn closer to the Lord when times get hard.  She knows she can always call on the Lord in prayer and he will answer.  She knows she can go to her Bible for comfort and the words will ease her hurting heart.  Our human nature is to try to fix a problem or "wish" the problem away.  As a mother, I too want to take this hurt away because seeing your child hurt is almost worse than any pain I have to endure.  But when we "Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you.  He will never let the righeous be shaken'.

The Lord has blessed Bailey's and my life and he did it once again on May 15th.  We were surrounded by family and friends who witnessed Bailey's confirmation and joined us in celebrating afterwards.  My heart was bursting with love and pride.  It is a day I will remember forever.  Praise God from whom all blessings flow!



Friday, May 27, 2016

Walking With Purpose

2016 marked the 10th year Team Bailey walked in March for Babies.  15 years ago there was no way I would have believed that Bailey would be as tall as me someday, entering the world a little longer than a ruler (14" long). This years picture shows that her height has caught up to me, and I'm okay with that. 

March of Dimes, along with the amazing medical staff in NICU's across the country, make it possible for most preemies to overcome their early health obstacles and eventually go home to their loving families.  For this reason, we walk, but also for those angel babies whose bodies were not strong enough.  I pray that the Lord may look over all families affected by prematurity.

At our first walk in 2006, Bailey was 5 and walked about 1 block.  Each year after that, she walked a little further.  A couple years ago she walked the entire distance with me, which is something I had envisioned happening one day. This year the weather cooperated and we enjoyed the entire 4 mile walk together.  My sister Hope and nephew Graham also walked halfway with us.

15 years ago I had no awareness of prematurity and how it completely changes your life.  20 years ago I had no awareness of depression and anxiety and how these mental illnesses completely change your life.  Just as I have become an advocate for prematurity over these past 10 years, Bailey and I have begun to advocate for mental illness recently.  The University of Northern Iowa organized an Out of the Darkness Walk in April, bringing awareness to mental illness and suicide prevention.  I recently participated in a 6-week NAMI (National Alliance for Mental Illness) Basics Class to educate myself on mental illness and how to support my loved ones, as well as the students I work with at UNI.  Neither prematurity nor mental illness is anyones fault.  But through both experiences we need support, understanding and compassion.
Bailey, Hope and Graham before the walk
Enjoying time together and getting caffeinated at Cup of Joes before March for Babies
Mother Daughter Selfie before the walk


Team Bailey 2016


Out of the Darkness Walk 2016


Armbands and tattoos showing support for mental illness and suicide prevention